Soalan2 cepumas

When you're married, especially just married, people will ask you certain question.

First question: Duduk mana?

Second question: Dah ada isi? / dah pregnant?

Third question: Eh dah berisi sikit ye badan?

Fourth question: Bila nak ada anak?

Fifth question: Berdua lagi ke?

Kalau saya listkan sampai sepuluh pon, soalan nya sama je. I mean the main question is, da pregnant ke?

haiyoh..i think most of the people have the same opinion with me. It's fine for 4 or 5 people to ask you the question. But when it come to 6 people.. it feels quite annoyed. Anak kan rezeki..

But then baru saya teringat..

Sepanjang kita hidup ni ada je soalan yang akan ditanyakan orang kepada kita.

Saya listkan dari lepas diploma. Nak listkan lepas SPM banyak ok..

Lepas diploma
1. Nak sambung belajar ke terus kerja?

Lepas degree
1. Nak sambung belajar ke terus kerja?
2. if kerja,
i.) Dah apply kerja kat mana?
ii.)Dah dapat kerja?
3. If sambung belajar,
i) sambung belajar apa?
ii) tak sayang umur ke belajar lama2? (true story)

Dah kerja
1. Kerja apa?
2. Kerja dekat mana?
3. Company mana?
4. Duduk mana?
5. Position apa?
6. Gaji berapa?

Dah kerja, still single
1. Bila berdua?
2. Bila nak kahwin?
3. Tak takut jadi anak dara tua/ bujang terlajak ke?
4. Jual mahal sangat kot, tu tak kahwin2 lagi..?
5. Kenapa, tak cukup duit nak kahwin ke?

Dah kahwin
-question as aboved

Dah ada anak
1. Anak dah pandai jalan?
2. Anak dah pandai baca?
3. Anak dah sekolah?
4. Anak berapa?
5. if sorang, bila nak tambah anak?

Bila anak dah besar
1. Anak sekolah dapat nombor berapa? (indirectly nak tanya, anak kau pandai ke..)
2. Anak dapat result pmr/spm apa? (hebat ke anak kau..)
3. Anak dapat masuk universiti tak..
4. Anak dah kerja? Kerja apa?
5. Bila nak dapat menantu?
6. If anak dah kahwin, Bila nak dapat cucu?

Can you see all the question.. Kadang2 orang bertanya tanpa niat apa2..I mean just to mingle around. Tapi ada jugak manusia yang kadang2 tanya for comparison. Contoh, orang tanya berapa gaji anak kita just to compare dengan anak dia untuk tau siapa lagi hebat. Tapi diorang tanya dalam berbahasa. Selalunya kita dapat tau samaada orang tu tanya hanya sebab dia just curious, just nak ada topic berbual kosong or nak compare or busybody.

Soalan takkan pernah putus dalam hidup kita ni. Tapi yang saya pelik, nape orang2 ni tak tanya pulak,

'Bila nak meninggal?......'

'...........'

Kalau dapat soalan ni, agak2 apa reaksi kita?

a> diterajang
b> Dijawab dengan baik
c> menjawab dengan soalan jugak. contoh: bila nak meninggal? erm bila pulak kau meninggal?
d> kau gila ke tanya soalan ni. tu Qada' n Qadar kitalah
e> kau buang tebiat ke ni..agak2 kau yang nak meninggal tak?

'..........................'

Ok, ini post bosan & annoyed bila dapat soalan bukan2.. No heart feelings yah ;)

Harini, 3/12/10 genap 2 bulan 2 hari saya jadi isteri orang..

Alhamdullillah and was hoping the day when i'm saying,

" today is 22 years and 2 days i've been married.."

InsyaAllah.... (^_^)

Being at home without my parents and husband do give some impact to me.

I like to day-dreaming and i think it become worst.

I started to look back at my life.

The first day i went to Tadika..

The last day of Tadika..

The first day i went to primary school..

The moment i keep being punished to stand on the chair for 1 period by my teacher because i make noise..

The moment i took UPSR..

The moment when upsr's result went out..

The moment when i went to secondary school to register by myself..

Everyone were taking their parents to the school to register or they were in a group of their friends to register but i all by myself because all my close friends in primary school went to other school and i, at that time were embarassed to bring parents along since, yelah dah form 1 ok.

Takkan nak bawak parents datang teman register. Plus, bak kata mak saya, jarak rumah saya dengan sekolah ni, macam kentut kat rumah tak habis bau lagi, dah sampai sekolah. haha..

And i still remember the moment when people dislikes me at started to talk behind me..

the moment i met some wonderful friends..

PMR moment.. the results..

SPM moment..the time i started to think what i want to do in life..

SPM results..

The journey after that..

Diploma moments..

After diploma moments..

A year of doing nothing..

Degree moments..

The first day i met my husband.. (at that moment we're not even a couple)

The moment i spent with him..

The first day of working..

The up and down of working..

The first day i met his family..

the merisik day..

the engagement day..

All discussion i had with him..

The solemnization day..

The day i become his wife..

The day he had to go to work two weeks after our marriage...

the moment i went to kk just to meet him..

Haih..

The moment.. The memories..

The stories beneath us

We are all walking novel..

Right?

Boleh ke kita sayang orang lain lebih dari diri sendiri?

Whatever the answer be, i am very grateful to Allah for giving me this feelings..

Now i know why I didnt get to feel what i felt right now when i'm still young, when i'm still studying..

This is because...

Allah wants me to feel it right now, feels the unconditional love that cannot be describe by words..

Sharing is caring ;)

Just to share and remind myself.. (^_^)

Surah Al-Baqarah Ayat 216 :

“Boleh jadi kamu membenci sesuatu, padahal ia amat baik bagimu, dan boleh jadi (pula) kamu menyukai sesuatu, padahal ia amat buruk bagimu; Allah mengetahui, sedang kamu tidak mengetahui.”

Surah Al-Baqarah ayat 286.

"Allah tidak membebani seseorang melainkan sesuai dengan kesanggupannya. Ia mendapat pahala (dari kebajikan) yang diusahakannya dan ia mendapat siksa (dari kejahatan) yang dikerjakannya. (Mereka berdoa): "Ya Tuhan kami, janganlah Engkau hukum kami jika kami lupa atau kami tersalah. Ya Tuhan kami, janganlah Engkau bebankan kepada kami beban yang berat sebagaimana Engkau bebankan kepada orang-orang sebelum kami. Ya Tuhan kami, janganlah Engkau pikulkan kepada kami apa yang tak sanggup kami memikulnya. Beri ma'aflah kami; ampunilah kami; dan rahmatilah kami. Engkaulah Penolong kami, maka tolonglah kami terhadap kaum yang kafir."

Kadang-kadang saya selalu mengeluh kalau ada benda yang kita plan tak jadi. Saya lupa yang ada benda yang kita tak suka kadang-kadang baik untuk kita, benda yang kita suka, tak baik untuk kita.

Kadang-kadang bila ada ujian saya selalu sedih dan mengeluh tapi saya terlupa yang Allah SWT takkan uji kita something yang kita takleh handle.. Astagfirrallahalazim... chayo2.. if i can do it, u can do it to (tiba-tiba je bagi semangat kat diri sendiri..hehe)

lonely

Did you ever feel lonely eventhough you're surrounded by so many people around you?

i had feel that emotion.

but today, this particularly moment,

i feel so lonely..

literally..

my husband is at work..

my parents were at mekah..

my sister went out with her friend..

my brother is off for holiday at melaka..

so literally i am alone and no one to talk to..

usually i make myself busy and i do have a lot of things to be done..

but this feeling makes me feel so tired and lazy and no mood..

haih..damn, i feel lonely...

haih haih haih..

Today, some idiot send message to my dad's phone claiming he's my dad.

He makes all of us quite panic especially my sister. I am panic but i have to be calm and control my emotion.

He's using overseas number which makes us wondering what happen to our dad and whether that message is true.

His message was something like this,

"Ini ayah, ayah sekarang tukar no. tolong tambahkan credit di no 0178xxxxxx 30rm. Ayah ada masalah dan kini berada di balai polis. tolong, butuh sgera"

Ok, the first time i read the message, i dont believe that it was from my father because of the language and the way he text us. i recognize words using by my dad if he message us.

But of course, we are worried sick and my sister tried to call that number that being given but he/she didnt pick up. I called the person who send us the message and he reject my call.

The first word come out from my mouth when my sister show me the message was, "ni bukan message ayah sebab kalau ayah, ayah takkan gune word-word ni and cara pon lain. ni macam indon je. cuba message mak, tanya mak dulu"

my sister text my mother and she looked very panicked and wanted to call our aunty. I asked her to wait until our mother replied first.

I am panic myself and i started to think bad stuff like someone snatch my dad's phone and whatsoever but i keep it to myself.

Then i try to call that number again and he still reject my call. Coward.

I ask my sister whether our mom had reply the text or not and she said no. And then she was writing again the message and try to send it using other number only this time she said it outloud what she was writing.

And i might has scold her a little bit. Hehe kena mintak maaf. She asked whether everything is okay and asked whether our dad were at police station.

I scold her why she mention about police station. What if our mother were not around our dad. It might make our mother worried.

But to be honest i cant blame her as she's worried about our parents and couldnt think straight and of course she cried as worried to much.

So i just sit down and i recite many doa just make me calm and asking for their safety.

Suddenly, our dad call my sister using the number he gave us.

Alhamdullillah everything was fine. The person who message us is just a scam. Seriously if i have that person in front of us, i dont know what exactly will happen to him to makes us worried that much.

Nak tipu pon mintak credit rm 30? hello..buat orang risau je...haih sometimes i didnt get why some people were like this. Nak duit, gi cari kerjalah..

haih stupidity of human being..